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05
Feb
2010

We have been studying and hearing since we had grown up that before Islam people buried their daughters alive. Islam came up with the concept that was dynamic and that ensures freedom for women and everyone. I don’t want to waste my time to come to the point and I must say that (even) today we are not MUSLIMS in reality. We have been intermingling the concepts of Islam with our culture and we are practicing every thing that is against the message of Allah.

I have no point to argue that Parent’s rights are supreme in our religion. But here the word RIGHT is well misperceived. We have to care parents, we have to treat them well, we have to deal them gently once they arrived old age, we have to love them and regard them as they are the guardians of ours appointed by God. But in any case parents are not the OWNERS of ours. Even no one is the Owner of ours. The OWNER (MALIK) is one and He is Allah. Allah is the only source of accepting someone as right or wrong.

I have been thinking many things regarding these issues for last many years and I came to the point that due to many errors in our conversion to Islam after arrival of Muhammad Bin Qasim in this region, we are still HINDUS. We always prefer culture and conventions against the open commandments of Allah. Even our Islamic Scholars are quite because they know that there survival is because of this brutal conventional system of society.  I always believe when Quran says if your parent, family, wealth and the fear of the trade loss is important for you than Allah’s commandments so we don’t need you. But here we are making our parent, society, family, wealth, culture and trade a god within. We always prefer to force our brutal conventions and present them as Islamic values.

I must say those children who don’t care their parents are criminal before Allah and those children who weight their parent over Allah’s commandments are also criminals before Allah. I don’t think there is any rocket science required to understand this point. I accept that parent and society have many rights on us but how parent and society can have a right that even Allah is not claiming for him and He clearly stated that it is the right of a human being to exercise.

Those who think that now daughters are not burying alive are living in the world of imagination. We have been burying our daughters for long even after hearing the message of Allah clearly. Burying doesn’t mean burying daughters alive beneath the land or sand but it is also there when someone burry his daughter’s consent and forcefully implement his will. This has been going on in many shapes but one of it is FORCE MARRIAGES. In our society there are many racists who think that we can only marry daughter in family even if her will is not there. The objective is just to stabilize the social standings and their family property. Those who do this have to be hated but in our society we are so ignorant and no one is providing justice on this issue.

In this regard for ignorant Muslims I don’t want to say something without quoting the words of Allah and Prophet S.A.W. So I would like you all to read the below (with references from Quran & Hadith)

  1. Allah Almighty said in the Noble Quran:  "O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower [money given by the husband to the wife for the marriage contract] ye have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it a great deal of good. (The Noble Quran, 4:19)

  2. 'Truly Allah has totally forbidden disobedience (and the subsequent hurt) to mothers, burying alive daughters, with-holding the rights of others, and demanding that which is not your right.' (Hadith Muslim 4257. Recorded by Mughirah b. Shuba).

  3. Narrated Abdullah ibn Abbas: "A virgin came to the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) and mentioned that her father had married her against her will to her cousin (for their social standing), so the Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) allowed her to exercise her choice. (Translation of Sunan Abu-Dawud, Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 11, Number 2091)"
    Complete Version from Bukhari of this Hadith
    Khansa Bint Khidam said “My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace). He said to me “accept what your father has arranged.” I said “I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.” He said “then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.” I said “I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e. they have no right to force a marriage on them). (Fathul Bari Sharah Al Bukhari 9/194, Ibn Majah Kitabun Nikah 1/602)
    (the point to learn that these kind of marriages had declared as invalid (void) from Prophet S.A.W. desk)

  4. Abu Da'ud, on the authority of Ibn 'Abbas recorded that "A [girl who was not married] came to the Messenger of God and mentioned that her father had married her against her will, so the Prophet allowed her to exercise her choice."

  5. Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as having said: "A woman without a husband (or divorced or a widow) must not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married until her permission is sought. They asked the Prophet of Allah (may peace be upon him): How her (virgin's) consent can be solicited? He (the Holy Prophet) said: That she keeps silence. (Translation of Sahih Muslim, The Book of Marriage (Kitab Al-Nikah), Book 008, Number 3303)"

I have quoted the key verses of Quran & Hadith to let you people know what out religion says and believe me Muslims; no one is superior from ALLAH & His Prophet S.A.W. So I want an answer from all parent and scholars of Muslims world. Are we willing to fight against Allah’s commandments? Are we superior from Allah? Are we the Owners of daughter and we have a right to burry their consents to force our will where Allah is saying don’t go against their will?

I am requesting to the parent of daughters to come under the umbrella of JUSTICE otherwise your aftermath is the worst and your life here after shall be hell. Please convert to Islam in full. Don’t hang up in culture, society and traditions. Our sole culture, tradition and society are Islam. I request those daughters who commit promises with man for marrying and then breach their promise by saying that our parent will is not there. If it was not your will when you made commitments so you are accountable before Allah and if you are being forced for breaching your commitment, it simply means you are accepting your parent above Allah and His Prophet S.A.W.

I know it is not the easiest of task but if people who are educated like me shall go to Islamic Schools and become Muftis, and then we can fight against their oppression. Parent in any case should not be hurt by our (negative) acts. They must be cared and respected. But if someone places his/her parent above Allah and his Messenger S.A.W. shall be penalize in this world and the world hereafter. We have to stand up and face problems for justice but sitting quite is a sin within. I hope this is the start and one day we shall have Islam as our sole convention, culture and tradition. Today I have no power, I am just a researcher, student and novice to Islamic System but if Allah will give me a power one day I shall execute all those families and parent by JUSTICE who bury their daughters alive without any mercy. May Allah guide me and guide every one of us to leave our sins by thinking it as culture or Islam (a misperceived version).


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Iqra Akhlaq Says:

AMEEN, may WE all become true Muslims in all aspects. May Allah give you and every one the courage to bring into light all the dark sides of the society.


05 - February - 2010 11:27:59 AM

Muhammad Iqbal Says:

This has become a common practice in our society and girls are brought up with a mind set that as far as marriage is concerned, they have to accept whatever their parents say. This is what happens when people dont bother to learn about their religious right and duties. After all this we see that pro-feminist women then protest on the streets against forced marriages and blame Islam and maulvis for this. The above ahadith quote by you are enough to silence these blindly directed protests. It is so disappointing to see that people from all walks of the society want their individual and collective rights but on the same hand do not want to accept Islam as a way of life which actually ensures human rights in the best form.


28 - February - 2010 03:28:30 PM

Farrukh Qureshi Says:

Dear Saquib You are absolutely right, we should arrange our daughters marriage with their free consent and will. But My brother, the problem is the current situation of our society. What the hell is going on, there is nothing hidden from any one, any one have little sense can understand. In the name of freedom what are our youth doing, what they want it is very clear, I am not saying that they all are alike definitely there are some who are very honest with each other and there relations are very pure, but what should a father do when her daughter expose her feeling for someone and the father nows about the cruelty of that person. Responsibility, Duty, Liability is not on a single side, both (Parents as well as Children) have to obey their own. having freedom is not a big thing but the art is to control your self when you are 100% free to do any thing.


01 - April - 2010 05:58:52 PM

Saqib Omer Saeed Says:

Dear Farrukh one wrong can not allow another wrong. So I think both situations have to be worked. If a girl feels something about someone so definitely she has a right to marry. Even if you see the hadith of Sahi Muslim and Sahi Bukhari that the best thing for two lovers is marriage. The problem is simple the parent in our society want to send her daughter to the school, college and office and when she said that she is interested in someone so their respect comes in between. The problem is simple that a boy and girl have a right to select their life partners and if they choose so, so parent can not come in between. But again the boy and girl have not to cross the limits of Shariah. But brother are our elders themselves on Shariah. Very honestly “NO”, whatever children are doing on the negative side is actually the MAKAFAT E AMAL and we can not relate it with the issue of woman freedom to select her life partner. Your further comment is solicited. May God bless you.


01 - April - 2010 06:54:16 PM

Farrukh Qureshi Says:

Every thig is MAKAFAt-e-AMAL, But one can not justify his/her wrong deeds in the name of that Makafat-e-Amal. I am not against the Love Marriages or Girl/Women choice for their lief partners, but the thing is, they should be honest with their relations. There are lots of examples in past or even in present regarding this type of relations and unfortunatly most of these relations are impure. There should be freedom of Choice for womens as they have to leave all their relatives and live with some one ealse. As I mention erliar that every one should perform his/her duty honestly (Parents, Son or Daughter)for the improvision of Our society, as society is made up of individuals.


03 - April - 2010 09:19:25 AM

Saqib Omer Saeed Says:

Yes Farrukh: This is the same thing I am saying that every one has to perform the relevant roles. Regarding pure and impure relations so, brother this is what we can not decide. The way woman is being jailed in our society and when we listen no voice so we says the relation is pure is merely our misperception. On the other side in WEST they made woman and product. So I am sorry to say neither we nor they are on top with their behavior with woman. I must say we believe that we are the owner of WOMAN but we possess no OWNERSHIP. Now if you talk about vulgarity prevailing in our society so it is not only the contribution of WOMEN. The MEN is EQUALLY RESPONSIBLE. So now we can not equate all this with the issue of Woman right to select her man. I think we misperceive but if people will again read the mentioned Hadith so they can better understand that it is solely her right and this even Her Allah is not snatching so how parent can. I think we all have to think in rational way. Whatever happening in our society is some thing else and the liberty our religion is giving to a woman is some thing else. A worst character woman can be there is our society but equally the worst character man can be. But I don’t know if a girl say in our society that I like a man and we want to marry so how it gets wrong. I think we are just not that mature to understand thing and we think woman as our property and we want to decide. So let this decision to be a part of her discrete. If she commit sin so she is similarly responsible as the man commits sin of any kind. I think we need to preach our children equally the lesson of TRUTH rather than the lesson of suppressing woman. Our society is in a mess and it is not because of those woman who are out and on wrong way but because those woman who live in home and accept when her husband, father or brother bring bribery. When she become a part of racist though and kills the consent of her children. When she worships her husband like god and accept all her right or wrong. If men in our society can study Islam in proper, so no husband can take the work from her wife like a servant. Even if women study it so she can be a loyal wife for her husband but never she can think him as HER OWNER. I think our society need to be more educated about woman rights. Regading bad women so we have bad men and no one can justify them anyways. God bless you brother. I always like to hear your thought.


03 - April - 2010 07:47:50 PM

Saqib Omer Saeed Says:

Even just one point in my mind, when God have given a right to human beings to marry anyone he/she likes so why in our societies this right is being thought as inherent right of others like family, parent or others. When we talk about role as Son, Daughter etc. so why people think that if you marry on your own will so you are not caring your parent. I think our whole society is narrow minded in this regard. If marriage is a contract so I think we need to educate our elders that what exactly the contract means and how it is the document that have to be developed by the free consent of the parties of the contract. I am sure that if we study the first 250 years of Islam and read about the marriages of Sahaba e Karam & Sahabias and their followers so our elders can say them on WRONG PATH even THEY CAN NOT BE. So I must say that we have to think about our attitude as a whole rather than preaching our culture and conventions as reality or the certification of Sacred or Sinner…….


03 - April - 2010 07:58:07 PM

Farrukh Qureshi Says:

I think we both are highlighting the same point with different angles. I agree in totality that Man and Women both are equally responsible for there wrong deeds. Instead of imposing their choice on their daughters, Parents should educate there children in a manner that they will not commit sins, always be in their limits whiling having relations with any one and will not become the cause of shame for parents. I am saying again that I am not against the women rights, but the problem is, every one knows ISLAM for their own only, Mans have knowledge of ISLAM only for Mans rights, same as the Women. The point is very much clear in light of These Words "Ay logon pory k pory Deen ma dakhil hojao" but unfortunately we are partially MUSLIM. You are absolutely right, if Man are educated regarding Womens right in ISLAM they will not behave like this with there wifes, and If womens are educated about what ISLAM say regarding Mans right, they will be loyal with their Husbands.


04 - April - 2010 05:51:13 AM

Buried Girl Says:

its continuing to burying girls alive.... with their senses , with their feelings ...with their all rights........... when will be it stop.........!! waiting for that day....!!


24 - April - 2010 03:45:38 PM

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Mr. Omer [1982 born] started  his professional career as a commercial / investment banker after achieving Gold Medal in Finance at master level from University of Karachi in 2006.

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